Tuesday, September 1, 2009

90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage

90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage
By David Hawkins
Published at Tyndale

About the book
Perhaps you’re newly married and it’s slowly dawning on you that you’re going to spend the rest of your life with this person. Or maybe you’ve been married for a decade or two and you long for the days when you were more than just roommates. No matter what stage you’re in, wouldn’t it be nice to be appreciated, noticed, and praised by each other, instead of being ignored or criticized? In 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, Dr. David Hawkins reveals a 12-week plan of noticing, focusing on, and bringing out the best in each other . . . a strategy that will revive the romance and renew the intimacy in your relationship. The book draws on Dr. Hawkins’ 30 years of relationship counseling (he is also a popular author, speaker, and columnist), and it contains stories and real-life examples from marriages in all stages (newlyweds, long-term marriages, couples in crisis). With this book readers can:
1) Put a stop to negative relationship patterns in just 12 weeks.
2) Learn to listen for and speak about the good in your spouse.
3) Embark on a more positive marriage, solidified with love and appreciation.
4) Feel fully appreciated when your spouse starts acknowledging your gifts and praising your abilities.
Who is David Hawkins?
Dr. David Hawkins has been counseling for over thirty years and is the author of more than thirty books, including the best-selling series, Your Pocket Therapist. He is also the weekly advice columnist for both Crosswalk.com and CBN.com. Dr. Hawkins founded the Marriage Recovery Center and owns Pacific Psychological Associates with offices located throughout Washington State. He lives on Bainbridge Island, Washington, with his wife, Christie. Visit him online at http://www.yourrelationshipdoctor.com/.
My thoughts
Throughout this book you will learn how to get a FANTASTIC marriage during a period of 90 days. Each chapter is for a specific week and at the end of the three months you will have rediscovered your spouse and became soul mate.
This book is good for newly married couples as well as couples who have been married for a long time. It’s never too late or too early to work on our marriages. There is always place for amelioration and for making the relationship better.
How many times did it happen that I felt offended when my husband came with some requests to change something? If I would take the time to see his perspective and see him not as an enemy, I wouldn’t and shouldn’t react that way.
Each week you will have a chapter to read where you will find examples from the author as well as from other peoples about the subject of the week. I particularly like the fact that the author has included his own experience in the book. I find that when an author does that – especially for teaching books – it makes it more personal and realistic. I love to see that others are struggling with some things in their relationships too.
You will also have a quiz which makes you think on how you would apply the lesson in your life. What would be our first reaction to something? And then there is a putting in practice section where the author suggests various activities so you can apply what you have read in your relationship with your spouse. Each one will make you think on how you can change yourself to make the relationship better.
Throughout the book you will learn to reevaluate your perspective, choose the rose-colored glasses, bring out the best qualities from your spouse, remember the reasons why your mate love you, give up distractions to focus on the dream, embrace the ripple effect, nurture your mate’s dream, teach your mate to nurture your dreams, prepare your best to meet your spouse’s best, unleash the power of positive gossiping, initiate change by encouragement and maintain mutual admiration. Honestly, I don’t know how a marriage cannot change when you go through all this…!
My husband and I wants to ameliorate our marriage and we both look forward of spending time to read this book and grow close to each other.
90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage is available everywhere even at amazon.ca and indigo.ca.

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